tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2206220894855898230.post6336788374598432915..comments2023-10-31T05:46:44.678-07:00Comments on Ruminations of an Aspiring Ecologist: Looking back on 2016Karinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16757213778638431428noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2206220894855898230.post-38557843281918429872017-05-31T20:59:15.115-07:002017-05-31T20:59:15.115-07:00Sorry for missing this for MONTHS. My husband and ...Sorry for missing this for MONTHS. My husband and I had always talked about having two kids, until we had one! The birth complications I had were frightening for him (thinking about the prospect of being a single parent) and made my recovery really tough. That first year was really hard for all sorts of compounding reasons. It was at about 6 months that he told me he was terrified of having another kid and I started trying to be ok with the idea of just one. I was really conflicted about it for a while, but then the older our daughter gets, the harder it gets to think about going back to square one with another child. We were in no place financially at the time to have 2 kids close together like I'd imagined. At this point, I travel a lot for work and I really enjoy the freedom of a preschooler. Trump's election sealed the deal for me because of his awful plans for undermining health care (among other things). It just doesn't seem like a good time for us to bring another life into the world, especially if I had similar complications again at delivery. I am still sometimes envious of some of my friends with two kids, but I know it's not rational and I try to work through it. I know there are so many benefits for us having just one and I think it's the right decision. What's the thinking for you & your partner?Karinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757213778638431428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2206220894855898230.post-77682351804752163182017-01-01T21:46:27.767-08:002017-01-01T21:46:27.767-08:00I'd like to hear more about your one-and-done ...I'd like to hear more about your one-and-done mentality - we are there without the biological necessity and I am probably slightly more conflicted about it than my partner. But I do think it's the right decision for us.<br /><br />Also weaning! I'm ready. This will be the year. :) Liberal Arts Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164373460149716550noreply@blogger.com